Our Words Have Power – Choose Them Wisely:)

Our words have Power – Choose Them Wisely

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This has been something I have debated posting about, but God laid it heavily on my heart last night and I decided it was time.  As most of you know, I am an optimistic person.  I will find “good” in everyone no matter what, because truly we all have good in us.  I am around 1000s of people on a weekly basis and some are positive and some are negative.  I listen to the way people interact with each other and so many times I hear degrading, belittling negative comments and it truly makes my heart sad.  There are two ways to say everything we want to say to people, we can choose the negative way or we can change the negative way and turn it into a positive, uplifting way.  What way do you think people will respond to better?  Yes, of course, the positive way.  If we fill our lives with negative thoughts, friends, etc, we will get negative out of us.  But if we fill our lives with positive thoughts and positive friends, we will get positive out of our lives.  In this world, we will not agree with people 100% of the time, but just because we don’t agree doesn’t mean we have to make hateful comments.  I truly believe the greatest way to tell a mature Christian/person is by the way they treat others.  We need to show grace to others in all things and at all times knowing we will fall short every day, but the bigger questions is, will we humble ourselves and admit when we are wrong and ask for forgiveness? 

A few weeks ago Jamie left the house with both sets of keys to our vehicles.  I had to be at the radio station and since he had both sets of keys and went to drop Isaiah off, I knew I was going to be late.  I was frustrated and text him “Now I am going to be late.” When he got home I grabbed the keys and left and was upset.  The whole way there God was speaking to my spirit and saying “Really?”  I text the radio so they knew I was going to be late and when I got there, I told them about it and we laughed, but I was still just feeling so upset because now I was rushed and just felt off kilter.  I got up to leave and grabbed my keys.  I got out to the car and started to put the keys in the ignition and realized I had grabbed the pastor’s keys instead of mine hahahaha!!  I walked back in and the pastor was in the hallway and I said I guess I got a quick lesson in “grace”.  We both laughed and I said I hate when God shows us that quickly, because I wanted to be upset LOL.  Now with that said I had two choices.  1)  I could ignore what God has just shown me and not humble myself or 2)  I could call Jamie on the way home and apologize for the way I acted and ask for forgiveness and hope he showed me grace that unfortunately I didn’t show him earlier that morning.  So I humbled myself and called Jamie and shared the experience and asked for forgiveness.  He showed me grace and we both laughed at how quickly God showed up on that one 🙂

 Another time I can think of was when we were on spring break heading to see our daughter in Tampa.  As most of you know that is when I was having major panic attacks due to my medical condition and we stopped at a gas station because we all had to use the restroom and I was in full blown mode and I needed to regroup.  We went in and headed to the restrooms.  There was an employee there and Isaiah started to head in the restroom (of course I am white and he is black so she was unaware that I was his mom) and she said “Oh my God, I just want to clean the restrooms, really people”.  I turned around and said “Oh my goodness, that was rude”.  She looked at me and said “I have been trying to get in there for 15 minutes, my manager just yelled at me what was taking me so long”.  Then instantly my stomach sank.  I then started talking small talk with her and she started crying and said she was having a bad day, her daughter was in an abusive relationship and her manager was all over her about the restrooms, but she couldn’t get in because they were being used.  I shared with her we were heading to Florida and I was dealing with anxiety/panic etc.  Then we both started crying about how we acted and she asked me to pray for her and her daughter, so I stopped right there and we hugged and I prayed for her and her daughter’s safety.  You see I could have ignored that prompting by God and just been irritated by her, but I knew God had a bigger purpose.  She needed encouraged and I needed reminded that I was not the only one going through a difficulty.  Our words have POWER.  Our words can build someone up or break them down.  Trust me, there have been many times when I didn’t show grace quite as quickly, but over the years God has shown me what he wants me to do and I can say within the last ten years I think more before I say things; I think how I am going to say something so it doesn’t sound like an attack and it sounds like it is coming out of love.  I am in no way PERFECT, but I know the power of words and I want everyone that comes in contact with me to leave feeling loved even if we disagree on something when they leave.  The phrase “Agree to disagree” truly can happen. 

There are a lot of people that have never been shown an unconditional love and have been belittled for so long that they may be defensive or rough around the edges, but once they know they can “trust” who you are and you truly “love” them, their attitudes change and their walls start to crumble and you can see the true inside of them.  Imagine if we all treated others with respect and chose kind words, what a better world we would live in.  Why do some think it is okay to talk in such a tone that is demeaning to others?  As I sit on the sidelines listening to coaches yell at their soccer players, there are those that yell what the player did wrong and then there are those that yell and tell the player what to do next time.  I, personally, think the player will learn more from the coach that instructs them on what they need to do “right” next time.  We, as humans, get tired of always being told what we do wrong, but when someone steps up and instructs us on how to do something better, well we accept that better.  Today, choose kindness, grace, and love.  If you are in a long line and it is taking forever when you get up to the cashier, show kindness.  If you are on the highway behind someone driving slow, show grace.  Do you know why they may be distracted?!  Maybe they lost a job, worrying about finances, or maybe their daughter was a domestic violence relationship. Rather than having road rage, be full of Jesus and start praying for that person. 

No matter what you are going through just remember how you want others to treat you and treat them in the same manner (Luke 6:31 “ Do to others as you would have them do to you.”).  Build people up, encourage them, and just love on them.  We will be spending several years on earth with them and possibly an eternity in heaven.  You never know, your kind words may make all the difference in someone’s life.   Love never fails and the only time we should be looking down on anyone is when we are bending down to help them up.  Today, build someone up, encourage them, and love on them.  You may be the only person to EVER show them kind words.  Our words have power, choose them wisely.  I love you all very much, I don’t care if you are homeless, a millionaire, a lawyer, a janitor, black, yellow, brown, purple with pink polka dots, I choose to see you all as the masterpieces God made you;  so you are all worth a million bucks in my eyes.  I hope after visiting our page you ALWAYS feel happy. Remember your past doesn’t define you, God doesn’t make junk, so we are all valuable in His eyes.   Hope you all have a great day!! 

GOD IS GOOD. . . ALL THE TIME!!

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